It is Friday evening and I am about to leave office, with a very happy wallet since the month has ended so now opting to pass by downtown Kampala through an open Market to get myself some nice T-shirts and High waste jeans. I have been looking forward for the day to end so I can grab my self the long-desired outfits. I love dressing up and looking good because it makes me feel better even when the day is not brighter though I think every girl does.
The moment I get the off the taxi, across the road I spot this nice black T-shirt and at heart am now thankful to God for the miracle of saving me the hustle of having to take so long while searching. You know how town hunt can be tiresome especially for girls. Kampala girls you feel my pain. I make a move to approach the gentle man who is selling but I realize I have to pass via very many stalls before getting to him, yes, I see the crowd but it was least expected that I was going to go through this.
When I got into the crowd it happened to seem like all eyes were on me, started hearing names being called out but particularly not mine. Sister, Nyabo, Sexy others whistling, and at the back of my mind I am wondering who they are calling in particular!!! Two men grab me by the hand asking me to at least buy a commodity from them, politely I tell them I had spotted what I wanted and was heading to get it, upon that even before I realized they were dragging me and throwing all sorts of insults, I try hard to pull away from the masculine energetic men. I am surprised by the other crowd that joins in not to defend, but to even insult more. Very pissed and confused as I was, I thought to myself silence would be a better solution because they seemed so determined to insult. To them it is called complementary, and what makes it so sad is the authorities that cannot stand for their citizens. On 24th September, 2013, Youth Affairs Minister Ronald Kibuule was recorded and quoted in national media saying that women who dressed indecently are asking to be raped and suspects who have raped such women should be released. This makes me feel devastated and wonder how women should defend themselves in such situations.
At the end of it all, I am so eager to know
1) Has one of you been in the same experience before?
2) Let’s hear from Men what do you think about such acts?
3) How can women defend themselves? Is it by silence!
4) If women had a chance to respond to these men, what would they say to them?
5) Why is it that when sexual harassment occurs, people tend to blame women on it?
6) Do how you dress speak more of who you are?
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